The Family Road Trip to Recovery
The road leading to substance use recovery is long and winding with many hills and valleys. Bumps along the way can be expected, and the scenery varies from beautiful serenity to pure chaos. When going on a road trip, we all know a passenger’s job is almost as important as the drivers. They provide a reassurance of directions when the driver is unsure, strike up conversations when eye lids start to droop, and are an extra set of eyes and ears to avoid accidents. So, what is a family members job when riding along with a loved one on their road to recovery?
It is crucial for family members to understand what substance use recovery entails. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, substance use recovery is defined as “a process of change through which people improve their health and wellness, live self-directed lives, and strive to reach their full potential.” This process involves focusing on one’s health and well-being, finding a purpose, and building a network of support (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration [SAMSHA]).
No matter where someone may be on their road to recovery, family members are some of the greatest sources of support. A family member can attend counseling with their loved one to heal the damage caused by the disease of addiction, rebuild trust that was lost, and promote forgiveness of the past. Showing support can be as simple as maintaining a positive attitude regarding recovery. Creating an environment conducive to sobriety by removing all substances, may seem like a no-brainer, but is often a big struggle for those in recovery. Families can enjoy spending time together while attending recovery-focused events or learning workshops. Although it may be uncomfortable at times, it is important to keep an open and honest line of communication with loved ones, discussing concerns, conflicts, and emotions (American Addictions Centers).
Offering support may seem natural to some. However, there is a fine line between supporting a loved one in their recovery and enabling them to continue use. Some signs of enabling behaviors are making excuses for, covering up, or ignoring a loved one’s substance use; blaming other people or specific situations for the loved one’s actions; and not confronting a loved one due to fear of losing them (Jeurgens, 2020). Family members should always strive to offer accountability, remain open and honest about use, and confront their loved one about their actions, when necessary.
It is important to acknowledge that the disease of addiction can cause pain, resentment, and distrust. Family members should be aware of their own well-being and ensure they are supported through this journey, as well. There are many resources available to family members of loved one’s struggling with addiction. Al-Anon and Nar-Anon are programs for individuals affected by someone else’s addiction. In-person and virtual meeting are easily found by searching their websites, www.al-anon.org and www.nar-anon.org. Individual counseling is also a great avenue for processing your loved one’s addiction. Providers can be found online at https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ or by calling the National Helpline at 1-800-HELP(4357).
The month of September is National Recovery Month. You can join in the celebration of Recovery Month through webinars, events, social media campaigns, and promotional merchandise that can be found at the National Recovery Month website. The road to recovery can sometimes be very lonely, emotionally draining, and physically exhausting. However, with the right support, it is always possible.
Written by
Jordan Leachman, LSW
Substance Use Services Intake Counselor at Mutual Ground
If someone you know is struggling with substance use, contact 630.897.1003 for support.